Forgive and Forget?
Over the years, I have had difficulties with many church leaders. Some have treated me with disrespect, some have lied to me, others have gone behind my back to cause me harm. I have also had troubles with secular bosses and coworkers, with church members & church “bosses.” I have been disappointed by friends and family.
Still others, some of whom do not even consider themselves to be Christians, have helped me, encouraged me, and came to my rescue.
What it has taught me is that the problem is not with a particular religious belief, or the danger of power or authority over others. The problem is that we are all humans – and we all make mistakes
Although some of the people who did me wrong probably did not intend any harm to me, many others probably did. And they most likely do not DESERVE my forgiveness.
But, I must admit…. I have failed God, my church, my wife, my children, my friends, my boss, my leaders and just about every other person that I have ever had any contact with – and in many of those cases – I don’t deserve forgiveness either!
Thankfully, Jesus died so that God, in His mercy could forgive me – even though I do not deserve it. And, because of the forgiveness of God in their lives, most of my Christian friends have also forgiven me.
Bottom line: To harbor unforgiveness does nothing to punish the other person. It only poisons me with a root of bitterness. Most of us do not (normally) nurse animosity against others. If you are experiencing a memory of past wrongs, reject it and renounce it as forgiven.
Someone has wisely said, holding unforgiveness in your heart is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.